Loneliness

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I guess we all have felt loneliness.

But is loneliness real or do we make it up?

That question seems almost sacrilegious.

The first instinct is to say - “Of course loneliness is real - of course we do not choose it - who in their right mind would choose loneliness - loneliness is real and there is nothing that we can do - it is something that is human - even animals feel it - so we can’t change it through any choice - it just happens to us in certain conditions - and that is that - come on now - let’s talk about something that is really important or better yet funny -yeah - let’s talk about something funny.”

But there is the question - is loneliness something I am doing or is loneliness something that is happening to me?

It would seem to be an important issue to at least look at - to see if it is a choice or something that is not a choice - something that just happens to us outside our control.

Do we have an obligation to ever look at the differences and to say it so we are clear?

Maybe just once in our lives we should look - so we can say with certainty that we know what the truth is.

Is it even important to us to know if it is something we are doing like an unconscious action?

But do we really care to understand loneliness? Really? - Or do we kind of like it where it is and not want to look at it - at least that it is some form of feeling - it is better to have that feeling than no feelings at all - or even no one at all.

But what does it matter?

Does anyone around you really care to talk about it - do they care enough to be there or even want to be there if you were lonely?

Would they have to be a good friend or family - maybe only real friends and real family would care to dissuade a person’s loneliness - or maybe friends or family who are just too unconscious and wrapped up in themselves to want to take the time are really just fair weather relationships.

Who really wants to visit an old person and bring love and attention to them for more than a few minutes - it feels to boring and dull.

When we can’t get enough water and we feel thirsty - are we doing thirsty or is it happening to us.

That seems simpler to say - that obviously it is something that is happening to us - because our bodies are dehydrated and the feeling of thirst is physically real - so it was really a genuine need - no choice - case closed.

Of course - if we do not get enough water we die of thirst.

Maybe our feelings of loneliness is like the feeling of thirst - if the body is not receiving companionship, love and affection then loneliness is happening to us - it is a genuine need and therefore no choice.

But can we make the same analogy about loneliness that if we do not get enough love we begin to die?

Hey does anyone really care if a friend feels loneliness and therefore is dieing from it - do we think it is that drastic - or maybe we hope they do die and we don’t have to have a relationship with them anymore - that would be a solution - huh?

That is too harsh - or is it?

Or is there an obligation to give them love like it would be to give them water?

But what if loneliness is an imagined illusion that comes out of uninspected feelings of fear or maybe just immature feelings - then really only immature people get lonely - and so it is their problem - because they should be mature - then it is not like thirst - it is a choice people are not making to get stronger - understand that loneliness is really a conspiracy of the immature people who actually just don’t want to deal with those feelings - because it is so universally accepted that loneliness is real -

Well if that is the case then most of the adult world is immature because they refuse to make the choice.

Is that true?

What do you think?

Or do you really care?

I mean - Really do you care?

Do you really care to know if loneliness is a choice?

Shit it is easier to just watch TV, go to a movie or read a good book and then you won’t feel alone.

But that seems like a choice - hmmmmmm.